Hangover trumps Father's Day plans

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DEAR AMY: My husband and I were scheduled to go out to Father's Day breakfast with his 34-year-old daughter (my stepdaughter) and son-in-law.

On our way to the restaurant, our son-in-law called to say his wife was ill so they were going to have to cancel. My husband's daughter later called and said she had been partying the day before and was too hung over to meet us. They both drink a significant amount. I see this as a sign of disrespect toward my husband and a red flag. My husband says it is no big deal. I feel he should have said something, but he declined. My husband says it is none of our business. What do you think?Still SteamingDEAR STILL STEAMING: Someone else's drinking becomes your business when you are left sitting in the parking lot of a restaurant for a special occasion that the other person is too hung over to attend.

Your husband may not feel secure enough in his relationship with his daughter to say anything to her about the effect her behavior has on him.

This explains why she is rude and thoughtless enough to declare that she puts her partying ahead of celebrating Father's Day.

You two are tiptoeing around this issue, but by using a hangover as an excuse, this couple is inviting you to react. If your husband won't speak up, maybe you should.

DEAR AMY: "Worried" wrote to you about injuring herself on her boyfriend's jagged glass table. The boyfriend could not afford to pay her medical costs, and her mother threatened to sue. If you have a glass table with a jagged, broken edge that someone could cut themselves on, you cover it with something so it doesn't pose a risk. A piece of duct tape would work. I am a Canadian and happily so, as firstly, I would not have had to pay for my medical treatment, and secondly, we do not live in such a rampantly litigious society as the U.S.Cobi