His beautiful date already has a boyfriend

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DEAR AMY: I went on a date with a girl who has a serious boyfriend. She initiated the date. She clearly has problems in her relationship but lives with her boyfriend and is afraid to call it quits with him. He is a trust fund baby with a big house and he parties pretty hard. That being said, I have no issue with him. The girl constantly hits on me and sends me text messages late at night. When I asked her if she was still in love with him, she said yes, but she routinely expresses her desire to get out of the relationship. We live in a small town where everyone knows everyone else's business. The girl's boyfriend clearly knows she is interested in me, which leads to awkward moments at the one bar where everyone congregates on Saturday nights. My mind tells me to leave her alone and give her a stern line encouraging her to either dump him and we can live happily ever after or to forget about a romance with me. But my instincts tell me otherwise. She is beautiful. She is smart and a little bit crazy, which I kind of like. I also live in a small place where action isn't exactly easy to come by. What do you propose?--Small Town Guy

DEAR GUY: If you want this girl to finally leave her boyfriend, do this: For the next month, stop returning her texts, and if she shows up at your door give her your best small town smile and politely turn her away. Be the coolest possible version of you -- the Clive Owen version.

This will drive her crazy. She will force a confrontation with you, during which you should say, "I'm not anyone's second choice. Once you know what you want, let me know. Until then, I think you should go home to your boyfriend." Bam.

After that, the only thing you'll have to worry about is how to get rid of this kettle of crazy once she has landed on your doorstep. Because while hookups might be a glancing bit of fun, crazy feels like forever.