Keen to hook up, she attracts frogs
DEAR AMY: I'm a 26-year-old woman who has kissed many frogs, and by "many," I mean that every single guy I have been with is a frog. I've recently been seeing this one guy whom I thought was the answer to my prayers. He said all the right things (not mushy or romantic, but genuinely complimenting my personality traits and attributes). We became intimate on our third date, and now I have heard nothing from him. He texted me after he got home from our third date, but nothing after that. I have tried contacting him twice (via text) since then, to no avail. It's been a few days since that third date, and I'm asking your advice as to how I should move forward. Should I keep trying to contact him, or just move on? What do you think is going on?Rejected in ChicagoDEAR REJECTED: By "being intimate," I'm going to assume that you and Mr. Frog had sex.
Being sexual with someone is not the route to intimacy that you seem to think it is. However, it is the path most often taken by frogs. So, if you want to continue kissing them, carry on. If you are satisfied with the occasional hookup, keep doing what you're doing. Rather than brand every man you date a frog, the most logical remedy is for you to change your own behavior in this area of your life.
When you do that, you will draw a different kind of person toward you.
DEAR AMY: "Jane" wrote to you, wondering how her son's girlfriend's young children should address her. My grandchildren, most of whom are grown, call me Grandma Ruthie. I got a kick out of it and still do. Most little children think people older than their parents are grandmas and grandpas.Grandma Ruthie
DEAR RUTHIE: You like the "grandma" honorific. "Jane" does not. My view is that most often it should be up to individuals to decide what they'd like to be called.