In the wake of her April breakup with rapper Big Sean, pop star Ariana Grande posted a statement Sunday lambasting what she considers sexist double standards.
"Being 'empowered' . . . [and] HAVING SOMETHING TO SAY is not the same as HAVING A BAD ATTITUDE," the "Love Me Harder" singer, 21, announced in a long Twitter post, after comments she made in a video posted Saturday on, and subsequently removed from, her YouTube channel. "What I meant when I said what I said about not being [Big] Sean's ex is that I am tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man's past, present or future PROPERTY / POSSESSION. I . . . do not. belong. to anyone. but myself. and neither do you."
Saying she comes "from a long bloodline of female activists," Grande noted that, "My aunt Judy was the first Italian american female president of the national press club in Washington DC," referring to Judy Grande, who led the organization from 1990 to 1991 while a reporter with the Washington bureau of Cleveland's The Plain Dealer. She died in 2008 from breast cancer.
"I think she would have been proud of me for speaking up about something that has been bothering me personally for so long," Ariana Grande wrote. "If a woman has a lot of sex (or any sex for that matter) . . . she's a 'slut'. If a man has sex . . . HE'S. A. STUD. a BOSSSSSS. a KING. If a woman even TALKS about sex openly . . . she is shamed!"
Grande added, "I know y'all already know this but the double standard and misogyny are still ever present. I can't wait to live in a world where people are not valued by who they're dating / married to / attached to, having sex with (or not) / seen with . . . but by their value as an individual."
At 11:11 into the 13:05 behind-the-scenes video titled "Capital FM Summertime Ball -- BTS of a Dope Day!!" that was posted on Grande's "Honeymoon Diaries" YouTube page, she tells fellow passengers in a car about a recent interview experience. "They were like, 'Talk to me about boys.' And I was like, 'No.' And they were like, 'Why?' And I was like, 'Because I'm not Big Sean's ex. I'm not Niall [Horan]'s 'possible new girl.' I'm Ariana Grande, and if that's not interesting enough, don't talk to me.' "