Husband's cooking sabotaging healthy efforts

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DEAR AMY: My husband has been sabotaging my health and weight ever since he retired and decided to learn to cook. He proudly makes dinner for us every other night. His inspiration is Guy Fieri, host of the TV show "Diners, Drive-Ins and Dives," with its emphasis on fatty meats, fried foods and rich sauces. He now serves meals such as huge Reuben sandwiches slathered with melted Swiss and creamy dressing. His dishes are delicious and hard to resist. Besides, I don't want to insult him by not eating what he has so lovingly prepared. But his high-fat/low-fiber foods give me miserable digestive problems and steady weight gain. I worry about my high cholesterol and my family history of heart attacks. Although I have gently tried to teach my husband some of the tricks I've learned over 40 years of cooking that cut down on unhealthy calories, fats and sodium, he rebuffs me. His weight and health do not seem to be affected. On the couple of nights I have put my foot down and forbidden him to cook, he has gotten angry. What can I do?

-- Force-Fed to the Grave

DEAR FORCE-FED: I agree that your husband is sabotaging your efforts, but every time you lift fork to mouth you should remind yourself that you are responsible for your own health.

Because this food literally makes you ill, you should not eat it.

If your husband belittles you for this, then you should face the fact that your gastric issues will simply never be as painful for him as they are for you.

As good a cook as he is, he is obviously not worthy of being in charge of your diet and health.

It looks like you are going to have to eat individually prepared dinners until he is willing to cook for two.

You should make sure to have plenty of fresh fruits and vegetables on hand.