We met at The George Washington University in Washington, D.C. Despite living only 20 minutes apart on Long Island and attending the same college, we did not meet until our junior year, in March 2006, at a friend's party on campus.
Graham took the initiative to talk to me. I was from Glen Head, and he grew up in Floral Park. We brainstormed about connections we may have had back home and eventually discovered we attended the same Gymboree class when we were toddlers.
The next day, Graham left a message on my Facebook wall suggesting that we hang out sometime. I thought he was cute but wasn't persuaded to set up a date based on his use of Facebook. So I didn't answer his message.
Later that day, I was at my part-time job as a university fundraiser, calling alumni and parents of current students, when I was randomly assigned to contact Graham's parents. His dad answered, and I immediately informed him that I knew his son. I also noted how to pronounce his last name, which is not an easy task. Although I was not able to solicit a donation from my future father-in-law, I realized I had developed a crush on Graham.
That evening, I suggested to my roommates that we throw a party at our campus apartment for the sheer purpose of inviting Graham over. They agreed. Looking back, I realize it would have been easier just to call and tell him that I was interested in hanging out too, but at the time it seemed like a brilliant idea. Graham accepted the invitation.
I could not sit still on the day of the party, and my anxiety kept mounting due to the fact that Graham showed up two hours late! He had been at another event that lasted longer than expected. It didn't matter; from that point on we were inseparable.
After college, we skillfully maintained a long-distance relationship when Graham went to Hofstra University School of Law, and I attended graduate school at Boston University. We became well acquainted with Amtrak. It did help that we both were on Long Island during school breaks.
I finished graduate school and moved back to New York, where Graham proposed in March 2010, a little over four years after we met. Two years later, on March 30, 2012, we were married at St. Mary's Church in Roslyn. We now live in Astoria, Queens. Graham is an attorney with Wagner, Doman & Leto law firm in Mineola. I work as an intelligence analyst in Manhattan.
The George Washington University remains a very special place to us, as do the friends who had an instrumental role in our relationship.