John Treiber remembers his mother as the mom who always warmly welcomed his friends when they would come to visit and doted on them as if they were family.
"We grew up in a house on 2 1/2 acres in Old Brookville and we constructed a football field," recalled Treiber, of East Williston. "I'd have all my friends over and she would come out and serve them drinks and food. Her door was never locked until the time she passed away -- her door was open to everybody."
Treiber's mother, Millicent Hope Treiber, died at her Old Brookville home on Sept. 14 of pancreatic cancer. She was 88.
John Treiber said his mother's love for people and caring for them influenced her career path. She became a registered nurse, graduating from St. John's Episcopal Hospital Nursing School in Jamaica, Queens.
The mother of six, who was born in Morristown, New Jersey, and grew up in Sayville, also helped take care of the country during World War II. She was a plane spotter stationed in the tower of the old Sayville High School.
"They were worried about being invaded by Germans and about submarines off the South Shore of Long Island," Treiber explained. "It was civil defense -- she would identify all the planes she saw flying overhead." He said she had silhouette cutouts of different planes that she would check to see whether they were American, and if they were not "she could notify somebody."
Millicent Treiber moved from Sayville to Old Brookville in 1955 after graduating from nursing school and marrying Howard Treiber in 1949. He died in 1999.
When her sons married, their wives got the perfect mother-in-law and a very positive role model, daughter-in-law Virginia Treiber said. She married Millicent Treiber's son Bruce, of Sea Cliff.
"Every single one of her daughters-in-law would say she gave us unconditional love," Virginia Treiber said. "She was the best mother-in-law in the world. Nothing she dwelled on was ever negative or sad -- she was always smiling and loving. I hope my children will have mothers-in-law like she was."
Other survivors include sons Craig and Peter, both of Sea Cliff, and Scott, of Oyster Bay Cove; daughter Pamela H. Treiber Baldwin of Avon, Connecticut; her brother, Henry C. Haer of Atlanta; and 18 grandchildren.
John Treiber said in accordance with his mother's wishes there will be no wake. But there will be a memorial service on Oct. 24 at 2 p.m. at St. Paul's Episcopal Church, 28 Highland Rd., Glen Cove.
In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to SCO Family of Services, One Alexander Place, Glen Cove, NY 11542, or YMCA at Glen Cove, 125 Dosoris Lane, Glen Cove.