If you gave birth when you were 35 or older, this group is for you: Motherhood Later…Than Sooner, which is holding its monthly social dinner at 7 p.m. Wednesday at Pearl East, 1191 Northern Blvd. in Manhasset.
Robin Gorman Newman, 51, of Great Neck, started the mom’s group after she adopted her first and only child, Seth, now 9 and in third grade. She wanted to meet other later-in-life moms to talk about the challenges and joys of becoming a mother in the late 30s or older. Newman is pictured with Seth, above.
Most of the members of Motherhood Later became first-time moms at 35 or older, but some of the members already had children when they gave birth yet again in their late 30s, sometimes because of a second marriage, Newman says. “They feel as if they’re navigating a whole new world as later moms,” she says.
At the group’s dinners, which are parents-only events, the women talk about the unique situations they face. Newman, for instance, is in the sandwich generation mode now – her father is 93 and has health issues, yet her son is still in grade school. “And I’m in perimenopause, which is always fun,” Newman says. They also might debate questions such as whether they have more patience or less patience because they are later-in-life mothers.
Motherhood Later’s New York chapter just surpassed 600 members last week, Newman says. Dinners usually draw up to 20 moms. The group also has mom-and-kids outings to places such as the Long Island Children’s Museum and White Post Farms. Events are listed on the group’s website, MotherhoodLater.com. It's free to join the group, though there are fees for certain events.
Wednesday’s dinner features speaker Lisa Levine-Bernstein, a nurse at Great Neck North Middle School who also raised four children, including two stepchildren. She'll discuss "Raising a Confident, Compassionate, Content Kid." She has spoken to the group before and was so well-received that moms wanted an encore, Newman says. Topics will include handling your child who is beginning to assert him/herself, picking your battles and knowing when it is best to guide or best to let go.
Reserve your spot for dinner by calling Newman at 516-773-0911. Cost is $45 a person and includes Chinese meal – appetizer, entrée, dessert, tea and soft drink. Tip and tax are included.