Timothy Smith, parenting coach and author of “The Danger of Raising Nice Kids,” will be on Long Island to talk about the five qualities of a healthy family and the benefits of wellness at work and at home.
The “Nice Kids” book, Smith says, “challenges the common phenomena of parents overemphasizing the externals as definitions of success (athletics, activities, appearances and academics) vs. resilience, character and competency.”
Smith describes a “successful” kid as a “capable, confident and compassionate person who has discovered his/her passion and is equipped to pursue it.” He and his wife Suzanne, a middle school teacher, have two grown daughters, one a teacher and the other an advertising account executive.
On April 14, from 6:30 to 8 p.m., at the Green Vale School’s Iselin Center in Old Brookville, Smith, whose work is influenced by Judeo-Christian ethos, will help parents “discover the traits for a strong foundation in your family.”
“Parents will discover the five key components of a balanced and healthy home that produce capable, high-achieving students, without some of the toxic elements that are common in many homes.”
The five qualities of a healthy family are based on the 2012 American Family Study by the nonprofit Search Institute of Minneapolis. They are: nurturing relationships, establishing routines, maintaining expectations, adapting to challenges and connecting to community.
Parents will also learn 21 healthy habits, including positive communication, affection, dependability, defined boundaries and contributions to family, that can be developed in any kind of home, Smith says. Parents “will be encouraged to choose one quality and one habit to help develop that quality in whatever kind of family they may be in.”
The Green Vale school presentation is free and open to the public. It is sponsored by the Shelter Rock Church. For more information, call 516-627-2270.
On April 15, Smith will speak on the benefits of wellness at work and at home at an executive breakfast seminar “Healthy Families = Healthy Business” sponsored by the Hauppauge Industrial Association of Long Island. The Long Island business group is holding the event as part of its annual “Wellness Challenge” program.
“The average American worker spends 1-2 hours a day while at work being distracted by or dealing directly with personal issues” and not his or her job, says Smith, adding that the number one distraction has to do with parenting issues. “If we can help parents be more effective, we can help them be less worried and distracted and more productive at work and at home.”
The HIA-LI event, open to the public, is from 8 to 10 a.m. at the Teachers Federal Credit Union in Hauppauge. The cost is $45 for members and $75 for nonmembers. For more information visit HIA-LI.org or call 631-543-5355.