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Wendy Mogel on the pain of raising teens

Wendy Mogel, author of

Wendy Mogel, author of "The Blessing of a B Minus: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Resilient Teenagers" (Scribner, $15), speaks at Temple Sinai in Roslyn Heights at 7:30 p.m. on Nov. 3. Credit: Handout

Though Wendy Mogel has written two books -- her previous book focuses on children, called "The Blessing of a Skinned Knee" -- she'll talk primarily about the teen years when she comes to Long Island, hoping to reassure parents that their teens' crabbiness, rudeness and mistakes are normal.

"If you take that personally, you're going to be in sibling rival-like battles with them," Mogel says. "What I'm doing is telling people that biologically, psychologically and sociologically, that teenage behavior is good and natural and proper."

Though psychologist Mogel invokes a blend of Jewish teachings from the Torah and other texts in her talk -- including the Hebrew expression "tzar giddul banim," the pain of raising children -- it is nonsectarian, she says. She'll talk about expectations, privileges, discipline and consequences.

She says adolescence is a time when parents need to be leaders in their homes. "You've never had a person bigger than you are, who has more energy than you do and can get into serious trouble living under your roof," she says. "We want to raise a resilient person who has been through some trial-and-error learning." Mogel will answer questions after her talk.

WHAT Talk and book signing by Wendy Mogel, author of "The Blessing of a B Minus: Using Jewish Teachings to Raise Resilient Teenagers" (Scribner, $15)

WHEN | WHERE 7:30 p.m. Thursday at Temple Sinai, 425 Roslyn Rd., Roslyn Heights

INFO $25 in advance, $30 at door; tickets include attendance at a parenting workshop Nov. 17, Dec. 1 or Dec 8 at the temple; 516-621-6800, mogelinroslyn.org

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