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Margaret Cho hearing wedding bells for LI show

Margaret Cho will perform at Westbury Music Fair

Margaret Cho will perform at Westbury Music Fair in Westbury on her "PsyCHO" Tour on Thursday, Oct. 8, 2015. Credit: Mary Taylor

Margaret Cho is looking for a Long Island couple to marry at her show Thursday at NYCB Theatre at Westbury.

"I think people don't believe me," says the comedian, calling from her Los Angeles home. "But I was actually deputized by then-San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom. . . . I'm Kim Davis, only I actually did my job."

Cho says her offer isn't limited to engaged couples. She'll handle the renewal of vows or preside over marriage proposals as well. (Those interested should tweet her @margaretcho with the hashtag #MarryMeMargaret.)

Cho says she was asked to perform gay weddings in San Francisco at the site where gay activist and Long Island native Harvey Milk was murdered. "To do something as magical and important as gay weddings there, I think it was very healing," Cho says. "I would like to bring some of that energy to my shows."

It's an understandable thought, considering how dark some of the material in her current "psyCHO" tour, as well as her Showtime special of the same name, can be. Cho plans to do a song from her upcoming album called "I Want to Kill My Rapist," as a way of discussing being sexually abused. She plans to discuss the deaths of her comedy role models Joan Rivers and Robin Williams.

Then again, Cho has spent much of her career balancing dark issues with lighter ones, turning cringeworthy material into big laughs. It fits in with the paradox of the current social climate.

"We're seeing society change so drastically in a very good way," Cho says. "We're seeing the rise of the Black Lives Matter movement. We're seeing the rise of Caitlyn Jenner. We're seeing the Supreme Court decision on marriage equality. So people who want to hold onto their privilege -- whether that's heterosexual, cisgender privilege, whether that is white privilege, whatever -- they hang on to their homophobia, their racism, sexism, as hard as they can. That is a sign of their demise. It just shows that they are slowly dying out."

Cho has always been outspoken about her beliefs and has learned to take the anger that comes from those who disagree in stride, especially when the anger takes the form of personal attacks about her looks or weight.

"You don't want to hear that," she says. "But the truth is that all they're doing is signaling their defeat. They have no cogent rebuttal. All they have are insults about the way that I look. I don't care. I identify as fat. And I want people to understand 'fat' is not a bad word. Do not be afraid of that word. As a woman, we've all been sort of taught that our looks are our only value. Really, that's a lie."

Instead, she has built her own truth. As one of only a handful of Asian-American actors who have had their own network TV show and risen to star status in American pop culture, Cho says she is thrilled to see Asian-American-led shows like "Fresh Off the Boat" and "Dr. Ken" on ABC this fall.

"I'm amazed and overjoyed to be seen as an example," she says. "It's great to see a new generation to follow their dreams. Seeing those shows, I feel like that is my dream realized. I didn't even realize I was setting an example. No one made me do what I do. I do what I want. I won't stop."



Margaret Cho laughs when asked about all her new projects. "I want to do everything," she says. Here's a look at a fraction of what she's up to:

FASHION POLICE She plans on doing several episodes of the E! red carpet review show following her guest host stint to talk about the MTV Video Music Awards.

CHO-G Her own strain of marijuana. "It was voted best strain in San Francisco," she says, proudly.

MONSTERS OF TALK Her popular podcast with Jim Short, featuring interviews with actors, musicians and comedians.


WHEN | WHERE 8 p.m. Thursday, NYCB Theatre at Westbury

INFO $39.50; 516-334-0800,

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