The women known as the "Mondays" who were part of a Bible study group at Centerport United Methodist Church about three decades ago still talk about how Dorothy Turner Loughlin, 20 years older than many of them and the group's leader, inspired them to live with compassion and faith.
Loughlin died Aug. 5 in a nursing home in Raleigh, N.C., of natural causes. She was 96.
"She was sort of like a mother figure," said Susan Oman of Huntington, a member of the Bible study group. "It was a very cohesive, caring group. Her leadership was instrumental in that."
Loughlin was born in Philadelphia in March 1917. She was a registered nurse and worked for a few years before stopping to raise her family.
She moved to Long Island after her marriage. Her husband, Bernard Loughlin, worked in Manhattan for Hazeltine Corp., now part of BAE Systems, and is remembered as the "grandfather of colored television," her friends said.
Loughlin originally lived in Lynbrook, but after getting a deal on a house, she and her husband did the "unheard of" thing for the time and moved east to Centerport, said her son David Loughlin of Escondido, Calif.
Besides caring for her three children -- David, born in 1945, and adopted twins John and Mary Ellen -- she was extremely involved in the Centerport United Methodist Church.
She was president of United Methodist Women and active in Church Women United. Her leadership of the "Mondays," starting from about the mid-1970s, stuck with people the most, though. This group of about 12 women, under Loughlin's leadership, bonded as their talks went beyond religion, and they shared their lives with each other when they met on Monday afternoons.
"I emulated her, in a way," said Oman, who became active in the church organizations Loughlin had been in. "I found myself doing what she used to do."
Longtime friend Cathy Robinson of Greenlawn remembers Loughlin's caring for others as well.
"I remember one time, particularly, she had some incident in the family . . . and nobody could get in touch with her," Robinson said. "She was out helping someone else having a problem."
Besides her kindness, energy and faith, her "infectious" laugh sticks out, Robinson said.
"She had the most unbelievable laugh," Robinson said. "A mile away and you'd know that Dorothy was there."
Loughlin and her husband moved to Raleigh in 1988. There, she was as active as her health permitted in the North Raleigh United Methodist Church.
In addition to sons David and John, of Cary, N.C., she is survived by three grandchildren and five great-grandchildren.
A funeral was held Sunday at North Raleigh United Methodist Church.