There is yet more evidence that if you want that love to last, you should log off the computer and put away your phone.
A new study from the University of Missouri School of Journalism finds that excessive Facebook use is likely to cause “Facebook-related conflict,” which in turn causes “negative relationship outcomes:” emotional and physical cheating, break ups and divorce.
“Facebook induced jealousy may lead to arguments concerning past partners,” said Russell B. Clayton, the lead author of the study. “Also, our study found that excessive Facebook users are more likely to connect or reconnect with other Facebook users, including previous partners, which may lead to emotional and physical cheating,” he added.
New relationships — especially those of less than three years — were most vulnerable to Facebook-related stress, Clayton said.
New Yorkers abound with tales of Facebook-related romantic rows.
When singer Tatsuo Teroka, 32, posted a photo of himself with some female friends, his then-girlfriend interrogated him about the identity of each one.
“She was yelling and screaming and crying,” he recalled. Eventually, they broke up.
Facilities manager Lionel Kerr, 30, sees Facebook as the ultimate relationship ended. One woman he was dating friended his Facebook friends “who she didn’t even know just to see if I was messing around,” recounted Kerr, who lives in Harlem.
One time a girlfriend snooped into the past Facebook messages of business developer Sean Bennett, and read his communiqués with previous loves. “That started a nice argument,” recounted Bennett, 25, who lives in Stuy Town. Even someone “liking” a picture of him has caused tiffs. Certain women perceive that “as flirting,” he added.
Teroka, who is from Japan and has been living in NYC for 10 months, has figured out a way not to make Facebook an object of contention ever, for anyone.
He has a diverse group of international friends and realized “there are a lot of tense topics,” not just between romantic partners, but nations. Now, so as not to offend, anyone, ever, he uses Facebook more like Pinterest. Now, “I only post pictures of sight seeing,” Teroka said.