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New Yorkers not in love with getting married: report

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New Yorkers seem to be getting more and more hesitant to pop the question.

In the past 10 years, Gotham's singles have been staying that way more often and for longer.

But it's not just us: Just over half of people across the country sported wedding rings last year - a record low - and the average age of those getting hitched for the first time also peaked, according to a Pew Research Center report published Wednesday.

"In 1960, 72% of all adults ages 18 and older were married; today 51% are," the report's authors wrote. "If current trends continue, the share of adults who are currently married will drop to below half within a few years."

The numbers are even lower in New York City, with just under 40% married according to census data, down from 43% in 2000.

Hunter College sociology professor Philip Kasinitz said he wasn't surprised that fewer New Yorkers were tying the not, since a lot of people live here early in their careers.

But when asked why fewer people were getting married nationally and waiting longer, Kasinitz - and the poll's authors - were unsure.

But Kasinitz hypothesized that it may have to do with a reduced stigmatization of having children out of wedlock, the sour economy and people questioning the importance of getting married.

But waiting later to take the plunge isn't a bad thing, Kasinitz said, because those that do tend to stay married.

"The places where marriage is still more common and still happens younger, by and large, are also the places with reasonably high divorce rates," he said.

Single New Yorkers said they weren't surprised by the report's findings.

"Everything is getting more and more expensive. And you need [more money] to build a solid foundation for life," said Mario Skaric, 21, of the Upper East Side, adding that he wouldn't get married until "I know I can support a family without any financial difficulties."

Curtis Diggs, a security guard who has been dating the same woman off and on since 1971, said he's happy with the relationship the way it is.

"If it ain't broke, don't fix it," said Diggs, 55.

But he also said that men aren't getting married because women aren't making them. If his girlfriend had pushed him to put a ring on it, "I would have pulled the grenade," and obliged, he said.

(With Sheila Anne Feeney)

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