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Letters: Ann Romney, stay-at-home mom

I commend Ann Romney for staying home and raising five sons ["Don't mess with mom," News, April 13]. Indeed, this is not an easy job.

However, I do not think she had to scrub her own floors, count her pennies when preparing meals, or worry about transportation to get her sons to the library or their activities.

I, and millions like me, put ourselves through school, worked because two incomes were needed in this economy, carpooled and helped those without a car, did our own housework, and learned how to shop and cook economically while staying healthy.

Many of us would have loved the choice to stay home. I love homemaking. Many of my students come from families where both parents worked, often doing menial jobs in order to pay tuition. I have expressed my personal views that their parents are heroes.

It is easier to raise your children if you don't have to worry about food, rent, clothing or even a car to take a child to a park or a museum. Ann Romney cannot understand this, and she is not due an apology from anyone who says that she does not understand the economic situations of the majority of women in this country.

Anne Raybin, Stony Brook

Editor's note: The writer is a visiting scholar at Stony Brook University.

Hilary Rosen as a political strategist certainly put her foot in her mouth with her comment about Ann Romney, but I'm tired of everyone saying that being a stay-at-home mom is the toughest job in the world. Being a stay-at-home mom is an easy job. A most important job, but not tough.

If it's tough, it's because you are making it difficult. I was a stay-at-home dad, so I know. Before my wife and I had kids, we decided one of us had to stay at home because we wanted to raise our kids and not have them raised by others. We were willing to forego one of our salaries to do this. For a number of reasons, it turned out to be mine.

My oldest just graduated from Boston University and lives in Boston, doing fine. My youngest is a freshman at the University at Albany, also doing fine. I'm now working again, and frankly I'd give it up in a minute to be a stay-at-home dad.

The kids don't tell me what to do, and they work around my schedule and my wishes in large part. Sending them off to school gave me lots of time to pursue my hobbies, and after-school sports was a matter of getting them there, then gossiping and joking with the other parents.

If you think that this is the toughest job in the world, I'd say you're missing the boat.

Micky Curry, Massapequa Park