True love knows no height

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DEAR AMY: A few months ago I started talking to a woman I met through a mutual friend of ours. I'm 24 and she's 22. We really hit it off and get along great. We now hang out a lot and are spending a lot of time together. What was a casual friendship seems to be heading in another direction. We've talked about dating and both of us are open to the idea. We do get along great. The only thing is that she's 6 feet tall and I'm 5-foot-8. This isn't an issue for me, but it concerns her. She talks about how it shouldn't matter and she wants to get past it, but it's stuck in her head. Too Short Guy

DEAR GUY: Do nothing. Be the cool guy.

The issue your friend is wrestling with is her issue to get over, and either she will -- or she won't.

You cannot and should not do anything differently. Your job is to be yourself.

I will tell you this: True love knows no height. The day may come when she realizes she has stopped noticing how tall she is. It would be nice if you were standing next to her at that moment.

DEAR AMY: You are completely off in your response to "Speechless," regarding the 12-year-old who dropped and damaged her friend's iPhone when the friend asked her to hold it. When one person entrusts an item to another for safekeeping, the second person is responsible for keeping that item safe. If the item is damaged, whether by accident or intentionally, that person is responsible for the damage to the object. I don't think 12 is too early to teach the child about responsibility.JH

DEAR JH: I disagree. When you own an object, you also own the responsibility for that object. When you ask someone else to hold it, you basically take your chances that the other person may drop or accidentally damage the object, just as you might.