5 financial steps to take before marrying again

Getting married a second time, or when you’re an older adult, comes with complications: You and your spouse may have assets from years of working, and you may have children from previous relationships. Tying the knot could affect your Social Security benefits if you’re widowed or divorced. You will need to update estate documents and beneficiary designations, and you may even want to consider a prenuptial agreement.

Working together to create a financial plan that incorporates your new family structure is essential. Here are the steps you should consider:

1. Talk to each other

Before you marry at this stage of your life, have a frank conversation about money with your spouse-to-be — and consider involving a financial professional.

“Working with a planner can really help because there can be some conversations that people aren’t used to having,” said Jaymon Meikle, a certified financial planner in St. Joseph, Missouri. This is a time to set expectations: Are you keeping your money separate or commingling your funds? How will you divide expenses going forward? What will happen when one of you dies?

Even if you aren’t combining finances, you must understand your partner’s financial situation so you can organize your tax planning, from tax bracket management to Roth IRA conversions. 

2. Update your beneficiaries

A new marriage is a significant change in legal and financial status, and you should update beneficiaries on all accounts, since beneficiaries trump anything you have in a will.

What we do typically is we have all the beneficiaries laid out so nothing goes through probate,” said David Demming, a certified financial planner in Aurora, Ohio. “That’s where we have the dialogue: Who do you want to have these funds?”

3. Weigh a prenuptial agreement

You or your betrothed may be coming into the marriage with significant assets or property, and if you ever divorce, that can get sticky. A prenuptial agreement can outline what you owned before the marriage and what will happen should the marriage end.

“Usually there’s a primary goal that drives what the focus of the prenup is,” said Kaylin Dillon, a certified financial planner in Lawrence, Kansas. “If it’s to make sure you have protections in place for children from a previous relationship, that prenup is going to look very different than if your primary goal is to make sure that income from a family business remains separate property.”

4. Check with Social Security

Marriage affects your Social Security benefits, so make sure you understand the ramifications of taking that step. If you’re not yet 60, remarrying makes you ineligible for any survivor’s benefits if you’re a widow or widower. If you’re divorced, remarriage means you can’t collect benefits based on your ex-spouse.

Your financial professional can advise on this, or you can call your local Social Security office for more information.

5. Ask about a trust 

One of the considerations of marrying later is whether and how you’ll leave assets to any children you may already have. If you die without a will, your assets will generally go to your spouse. A trust gives you more control over the inheritance you want to leave.