Musings: Trying to finally make peace
Any adopted child at 21 has the right to know his biological parents and why they were put up for adoption, a reader writes. Credit: Getty Images/Oleg Elkov
Many adopted children, now adults, are looking for their biological parents. And some biological parents are looking for their children. I, for example, had no choice but to put my children up for adoption.
At 76 and with stage 4 cancer, though, I want to make peace with my sons, Tommy and Bobby, in their mid-50s. Years ago, I was interviewed by Mary Murphy on WPIX-TV about my search, but no luck.
The adoptions occurred when I was in the Navy during the Vietnam War era. I had no way of providing for the boys, and my ex-wife had no means of providing either.
I believe that any adopted child at 21 has the right to know his biological parents and why they were put up for adoption. Before we leave this world, I believe we all need to tell them our past and try to make peace.
I’d love the opportunity to tell my children that I am sorry, explain my story, and inform them about their biological family. Also, that I still love them and always will.
— Frederick Robert Bedell Jr., Bellerose
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