Advice for renters priced out of homebuying

Today's housing market can feel like a dream killer.

Rising mortgage rates, high home prices and a shortage of properties for sale deliver a one-two-three punch.

If you've been knocked out of one too many deals and need a timeout, here's how to regroup and keep the homeownership dream alive.

Give yourself a break

It's OK to hit pause if you're frazzled to the point that you can't think clearly or are simply priced out.

"If it doesn't feel right to you … step away and give yourself some breathing room," says Catalina Franco-Cicero, a certified financial planner with Tobias Financial Advisors in Plantation, Florida.

But stepping back doesn't mean giving up.

"One thing we tell people with any goal that you have is that there's a big difference between 'no' and 'not yet,'" says Nathaniel Moore, a certified financial planner and president of Agape Planning Partners in Fresno, California.

Budget like a homeowner

Use a mortgage calculator to estimate a monthly mortgage payment, including estimated property taxes and home insurance. Then add utilities plus 20% of the monthly mortgage for unexpected maintenance and repairs, Moore suggests. Subtract your rent payment from that amount and set aside the rest in a high-yield savings account.

"That way, if and when you can get in the home, you don't have sticker shock or you're not house-rich and cash-poor because you didn't account for the other expenses," Moore says.

When you're ready to buy, you can add that extra money you've socked away to your down payment, which will help you make stronger offers and may qualify you for better mortgage rates.

"Nobody can truly predict interest rates nor inflation, nor the appreciation rate of homes in a relatively short period of time," Eric Lefkowitz, president and chief operating officer of Motto Mortgage Mint in San Diego, said via email. "But we can be certain that buyers should be saving for strong down payment options.."

Pay down debt

View the break as an opportunity to get your finances in even better shape. Paying down credit cards and other debt will improve two measurements: your credit score and your debt-to-income ratio, or DTI. Both are key factors that lenders consider when deciding whether you qualify and at what rate.

A good DTI — the percentage of gross monthly income that goes toward debt — is generally under 36%. The lower the better.

Resist the temptation to vent your frustration in a spending splurge, whether it's running up a credit card balance or buying a new car when the old one suffices.

"That's the last thing you want to do when you're taking this pause," Gillard says.

Reevaluate your wants and needs

This is a good time to look at the big picture.

"People need to do some soul searching to say, 'What am I looking for in a home?'" Moore says.

Given home prices and mortgage rates, you may need to adjust your filters. You may need to shop for homes in a different neighborhood or buy something smaller than originally imagined.

"Homeownership is a step-by-step opportunity," Lefkowitz said. "You are not committing to stay in a home forever."

If you could work elsewhere, another option you might consider is relocating to a less-expensive housing market, Franco-Cicero says. Taking a pause can give you time to research the quality of life and cost of living in other locations.

Keep in touch with agent, lender

Keep in touch with experts you trust who can watch the market and bring you back in when you're ready, Lefkowitz said.

Pratt says she counsels clients to maintain realistic expectations and not give up.

"Hang in there," she says. "Something will come."