Wilfred Joseph, who owns Arbor View House Bed & Breakfast in East Marion with his wife, Veda, discusses the challenges the pandemic has posed to his family's business. Credit: Newsday / Randee Daddona/Randee Daddona

By their very nature, bed-and-breakfast operations are supposed to be inviting, cozy and far more intimate than staying in a large hotel. For many guests, it’s the niceties like high-end beds and linens, home-cooked breakfasts and interaction with friendly hosts, as much as proximity to interesting and fun things to do, that really take a stay to the next level.

To attract and keep their customers coming back for more, successful B&B owners focus on developing a distinctive atmosphere, targeting specific audiences and differentiating themselves from the competition. At least that was the case before COVID arrived on the scene.

As the pandemic engulfed Long Island in early 2020, B & Bs had to close for a while per a New York State order. Most suffered cancellations and lost revenue even once reopened. But the innkeepers have been resilient and innovative, surviving and even thriving, and are now looking forward to welcoming guests as the weather gets warm.

The Zinfandel room, one of four guest rooms at Arbor...

The Zinfandel room, one of four guest rooms at Arbor View House Bed and Breakfast. Credit: Randee Daddona

'Do breakfast right'

"If you don’t enjoy meeting new people, opening a bed-and-breakfast isn’t for you," says Wilfred Joseph, 78, who runs the circa-1790 Arbor View House in East Marion with his wife, Veda Daley Joseph. "Most who get into this business stay for less than seven years — and many leave after realizing they dislike dealing with guests."

Joseph should know. He’s a member of the North Fork Bed and Breakfast Association and Promotion Council, and sits on the board at Discover Long Island, which promotes tourism in Nassau and Suffolk counties. He says B & Bs come and go, but those that last have owners who enjoy meeting guests, show them a fun time, and deliver an experience different from the competition. He’s taken that lesson to heart.

When the Josephs opened their four-guestroom inn in 1999, they made three priorities, he says: "Assume all guests are good people, have the best beds and linens possible, and do breakfast right." The first item helped the couple feel comfortable allowing strangers into their home because, as Joseph notes, "In a true B&B, owners reside in the same building as guests."

Arbor View House Bed and Breakfast in East Marion.

Arbor View House Bed and Breakfast in East Marion. Credit: Randee Daddona

The morning meal at Arbor View House is lush, with spices and dishes that reflect Veda’s Jamaican and Wilfred’s Guyanese roots. The three-course breakfast features fresh fruit, a small salad and something special tailored to the idiosyncrasies of guests — think salmon cakes, crab cakes, homemade breads and biscuits. Vegan, kosher, low salt and gluten-free meals are options.

Another nice touch is the couple’s local knowledge. They’ll tell you what events are going on, where to take a hike and which restaurants or vistas are best to visit. They also offer a variety of massage services performed by licensed masseurs, plus aromatherapy baths.

"Assume all guests are good people, have the best beds...

"Assume all guests are good people, have the best beds and linens possible, and do breakfast right," Wilfred Joseph says of the B&B he runs on the North Fork with his wife, Veda Daley-Joseph. Credit: Randee Daddona

The COVID pivot

"Of course, we have had to make some big adjustments because of the COVID outbreak," says Joseph. "When the pandemic first arrived, dozens of overseas guests canceled their bookings, and at one point we closed due to government mandate. We survived on our savings and the kindness of those who requested gift certificates rather than cash back."

As the pandemic evolved, the couple instituted contactless check-in. Originally, they asked unvaccinated guests to eat in a separate room and to avoid mingling. These days, everyone must wear a mask in public areas of the house, and proof of vaccination is required to stay. For the time being, massage options have been suspended with emphasis shifted to the aromatherapy baths.

"The changes came with a price, but they are necessary," says Joseph.

Deirdre Ventura, owner of The Harbor Rose Bed & Breakfast in...

Deirdre Ventura, owner of The Harbor Rose Bed & Breakfast in Cold Spring Harbor Credit: Linda Rosier

Healthy host, healthy guests

As owner and innkeeper of The Harbor Rose Bed & Breakfast in Cold Spring Harbor, Deirdre Ventura has tailored the experience there to reflect her environmentally sensitive and healthy lifestyle.

"I live here with my teenage daughter, Zara," says Ventura, who is in her 60s. "I’m conscious of modeling behaviors and values that will help her stay healthy and become a responsible citizen in this world."

Set in a home built in 1846 that is meticulously maintained and upgraded, The Harbor Rose has three guest rooms with Egyptian cotton linens, feather pillows and down blankets. A purification system provides drinking water bottled on the premises. Breakfasts are kosher, gluten-free, dairy free and vegan. Ventura points guests to nearby historical sites and North Shore beaches.

"We recycle, compost, grow vegetables, belong to a local CSA organic farm, and do everything possible to minimize our carbon footprint. All this costs more money to supply and implement, especially now, during the pandemic, but it’s better for the planet and healthier for my family and guests," Ventura says. "Plus, I love knowing my guests feel better when they leave than when they arrived," she adds.

The second-floor porch of The Harbor Rose Bed & Breakfast overlooks...

The second-floor porch of The Harbor Rose Bed & Breakfast overlooks Cold Spring Harbor. Credit: Linda Rosier

When the COVID pandemic decimated her bookings, Ventura completely reworked her business model. Originally, her guests were those attending seminars at Cold Spring Harbor Laboratory. Once those events went virtual, she switched to attracting guests from Long Island and New York City with the promise of escaping the bustle of daily life without needing to pass through an airport.

"The switch worked," Ventura says, noting all her rooms are being reserved on a regular basis. She has upgraded to medical-grade UV lights to disinfect guest rooms, and is spending several hours more cleaning each day than in the past. She doesn’t specifically ask if guests are vaccinated, but all are required to mask up in public areas of the house. "Everything looks good going forward," she says.

Marty and Elyse Buchman have made cycling the focal point...

Marty and Elyse Buchman have made cycling the focal point of their Stony Brookside Bed & Bike Inn in Stony Brook. Credit: Raychel Brightman

'Build on your passion'

At the Stony Brookside Bed & Bike Inn in Stony Brook, Elyse Buchman, 63, and her husband, Marty Buchman, 62, promote cycling. "We market within the bicycling community, in which we are very active" says Marty. "It’s a good start to build on your passion."

What really sells the operation, though, is the couple’s excitement in showing people a good time — and their deep knowledge of cycling, both locally and overseas. Cycles are complimentary at this B&B, and the Buchmans, who host fundraising bike rides for the New York Bicycling Coalition, point their guests to trails and routes matched to skills and experience.

The common area at the Stony Brookside Bed & Bike...

The common area at the Stony Brookside Bed & Bike Inn. Credit: Raychel Brightman

While the Buchmans don’t ask if guests are vaccinated, they do volunteer that they are vaccinated. Anyone in a common area needs to wear a mask at their inn, which is closed for the winter and will reopen in April. "Last year saw a lot of COVID-based cancellations and we took a heavy loss," Buchman says. "This season has been robust enough to offset those losses, and we’ve seen an increase in visitors from Brooklyn and NYC who want to get away from their small apartments to get out and ride."

East Hampton Art House Bed & Breakfast.

East Hampton Art House Bed & Breakfast. Credit: Newsday/J. Conrad Williams Jr.

Art-filled experience

When the economy went bust in 2008, artists Michael Cardacino and Rosalind Brenner had just finished constructing a sprawling family compound in East Hampton where they planned to live and care for aging relatives — but when the phone stopped ringing with artwork orders and both family members died, a friend suggested they open their home as East Hampton Art House Bed and Breakfast.

"We had two free rooms, the grounds were quiet and spectacular with a great pool, and there’s a private beach around the corner," says Cardacino, 69. "We’re also a short car ride from East Hampton village and all the amenities for which the South Fork is famous, including wining, dining, galleries and beaches."

Cardacino uses innovative techniques to make 3D computer sculptures while Brenner is a mixed-media abstract painter.

One of the best aspects of Cardacino and Brenner’s setup is their B&B income complements their art income. "We display our work throughout the house and our guests see it being created," says Cardacino. "Sometimes we sell art right off the wall, and we get a surprising number of commissions from guests, too."

East Hampton Art House Bed and Breakfast features artwork by...

East Hampton Art House Bed and Breakfast features artwork by owners Rosalind Brenner and Michael Cardacino, above, right. Credit: Newsday/J. Conrad Williams Jr.

The couple were well settled in their business when COVID exploded onto the scene, causing heavy cancellations of their mostly European and Asian bookings. They refocused their business on New York City prospects wanting to visit locations where social distancing was easy for celebrating marriages, anniversaries or milestone birthdays.

Guests are asked to wear masks when interacting with others outside of their own groups while in the house, Cardacino says. They are not required to wear a mask if watching TV or reading a book by themselves in the den, for example, unless the owners or someone from another party is also in the room. Tables are well separated for breakfast, so masks are not required there, and use of the indoor pool is restricted to one visiting couple or group at a time, so no masks are required there, either.

The pandemic was just another challenge of many that B&B owners have had to deal with, the innkeepers say. But it's worth it.

"There’s always a curveball coming your way, but running a B&B can still be a rewarding endeavor," Wilfred Joseph says. "Most people at night lock their doors to keep the world out. In this business, you lock your guests inside your home. That says a lot about both our guests and owners."

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