Ask Amy: Stop gifts to ungrateful godchild

You have my permission to stop. If his mother harbors hard feelings toward you because of this, then she is not really much of a friend.

DEAR AMY: "Wannabe Mommy" was worried about repeating her parents' mistakes when raising her own child. I, too, worried about that, because my mother was so emotionally cold to me. Whenever there was a family conflict, I was always blamed. When I saved myself from being molested by an older friend of my parents at the age of 14 and told my mother about it, she blamed me. When my daughter was born, I wrote in a little book "I will never treat her as my mother treated me." To this day, 42 years later, my daughter is my best friend. When it comes to parenting, history does not have to repeat itself.Reader in Ohio

DEAR READER: Your resolve is admirable. The proof is in your positive and loving relationship. That's a new family legacy to carry forward.