Bisexual wonders when to tell parents

DEAR AMY: For a little over six months, I have been having a sort of internal struggle about my sexuality. About six weeks ago, that struggle came to an end, and I have since decided to identify myself as bisexual. I have told four of my closest friends (who are totally fine with it), and I plan on maybe telling a few more in the future.

The thing is, I don't want to tell my parents. My parents are pro-gay and we have gay family members -- but I just think they'll make a much bigger deal out of it than they should. I worry they'd say, "Oh, it's not a problem if you're bisexual," but, nonetheless, be concerned about it all the time. My friends agree that I shouldn't tell my parents just yet, and I suppose it's not an issue since I haven't started dating. On the other hand, they are my parents and they do have the right to know at some point. But when is that "some point"?Wondering

DEAR WONDERING: You don't say how old you are and so it's challenging for me to assign a perfect moment for you to disclose this to your parents.

In fact, there is no perfect moment.

I do know this, however. You cannot control how your folks will react. You cannot accurately predict what they will say to you versus what they will be thinking.

Parents worry.

Worry is built into the job description.

Whatever moment you choose won't erase their concern about you, because regardless of your sexuality, they want you to be healthy, happy and secure.

I would advise you not to wait until you are in a relationship, however.

Disclosing your sexuality at the same time you are enveloped in a romance may be too much information to handle all at once.

I sincerely give you credit for struggling to find your authentic self and for being so thoughtful about how to handle it.