Computer suggests dad has a porn habit

DEAR AMY: I recently discovered the history button on my computer, and started using it.

I found porn sites listed. Thinking it was a mistake, I deleted them. Now I check the history every day, and I notice that these sites are visited about once a week. I know that it is my dad who is looking at them. These sites are visited throughout the afternoon, when my father is alone. I don't know what to do. My father calls himself a good Catholic and goes to church every week. Now it all seems like a show to me. My mom has no idea about this, and I know she would be devastated. Should I tell my dad I know what he's doing?

--XXX-treme Secret Keeper

DEAR KEEPER: Let's assume you are correct and that your father is the person visiting porn sites. On one level, as unfortunate as this choice is, your father's activities are his private business. But this knowledge has thrown you into a crisis. Because of this, you should speak to him. Tell him what you've seen and tell him what you think of his behavior. If you have questions, ask. Your father may deny doing this. But at least he will know you are aware of it -- and he'll know how you feel about it.

DEAR AMY: I'm responding to the letter from "No Babies, Thanks," who is happy with her stepson and not planning to have more children. My wife and I have been married for five years. Friends, family and co-workers bombard us with, "So when are you having kids?" even after we have made it clear we are not having kids. (We love spoiling our nieces and nephews.) When we explain ourselves, people always respond as though they are the offended ones. I simply tell them, "I'm proud of my family, because it might not be blood that binds us, but it's love that keeps us."

--Family Values

DEAR VALUES: Perfect!