Despite bad choices, don't reject daughter

You need to respect her right to make these decisions, while continuing to love and mentor her from a distance, in the hopes that as she matures she will remember the ethics and quality of her upbringing and choose to live differently.

She is facing some of the real-life consequences of trying to succeed outside of your family's home. She might actually be safer in this other family's home down the street than she would be piecing it together with this controlling man out in the world.

Your attitude should be, "We will always be your loving parents. We are here for you." If she is hooked up with someone who is controlling, this is all the more reason to keep the door open. There is no need to run from the truth -- accept and then deal with it.

If you don't want to lend your car to her, then don't. But don't sever your relationship.