End intimacy with coffee-klatching guy

DEAR AMY: I've been seeing a man for more than three months. We are both 40 with no children. I've never been married, and he is divorced. Two weeks ago we began a sexual relationship. I wanted to make it known that I don't do "open" relationships. He just told me that a woman has asked him to meet up for coffee. He said it was no big deal. I'm inclined to put the brakes on our sexual relationship until he knows what he really wants. In my mind, I'm not the answer for him or he wouldn't be making time for coffee dates with another woman. I'm thinking maybe I need to start having some coffee dates, too. What do you think?Curious Singleton

DEAR SINGLETON: I agree.

Granted, going on a coffee date doesn't necessarily equate to a Craigslist hookup, but your guy basically seems to be declaring that he wants to meet more people.

You two have been physically intimate, and now you can test your intimacy by discussing how meeting new people fits into the relationship you share.

Dating is important. You two should embrace dating -- each other and other people. But back away from your sexual relationship until it conforms to your own values.

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