Fearing boyfriend cheats is no way to live

DEAR AMY: I've been in a relationship for 17 months, but the trust issue comes between us. I always think he is cheating because he has cheated on me three times already, but I forgave him. Every time I ask him about cheating, he tells me I'm the only one. But why do I always have this feeling that he's doing something behind my back? Sometimes he won't even get in touch to say good night, but I know he is still up until 3 a.m. communicating on Facebook. I love him so much, Amy. What should I do?

--Faithful Lady

DEAR FAITHFUL: I worry about you. I worry about your choice to stay with someone who keeps you so off kilter. You are at the point in your relationship where it no longer really matters what your boyfriend is doing; what matters now is what you do. You should muster the courage to leave this relationship because you know you deserve something better. Judging from your boyfriend's track record and current actions (as well as your instincts about him), I'd say that if you want a faithful love relationship, a good place to start would be to get a dog.

DEAR AMY: Recently I wrote to ask your advice about a new baby co-sleeping with her parents and never put into a crib. Your advice worked, and I am sending you a million thank-yous. The little one is now put in her big, magnificent crib, and she loves it. Thank you, Amy.

--Grandma

DEAR GRANDMA: I am so happy that your daughter and her family paid close attention to the reasonable recommendations about co-sleeping. The day your letter was published, I heard a fascinating account of a long-running program in Finland, where every expectant mother in the country is offered a "baby box," a sturdy cardboard box filled with baby basics. The baby spends its first weeks sleeping in the box. This is a simple and safe way to co-sleep with an infant.