He can't see himself as marriage material

DEAR AMY: I am a 50-year-old, single man politely described as "unusual." I have very few friends and am very comfortable with that. I like structure in my life. If it were not for my sisters, I would wear the same combination of tan pants, white shirt, red tie and blue blazer every day. I have worked with a young lady for 15 years; she is in my circle of friends, and I have accompanied her to various activities for years. She has intimated to me, my sisters and some colleagues that she would like for us to become romantically involved with the hopes of marriage as the outcome. I have tried to dissuade her by pointing out my age (I am 13 years her senior), my personality and our disparity of appearance -- she is quite stunning, and I am very plain. I had always assumed I would just live as a bachelor. I don't think a marriage to me would be emotionally fulfilling, based on the factors I have presented, but she feels I would offer unquestioned stability.Unsure

DEAR UNSURE: You have a right to live the life you want to live, in the way you want to live it. You need only search your own soul to make choices that are authentic and not based in fear and anxiety.

Aside from that, you should reassess a relationship in which you feel pressured to offer something you have no desire to give.

You also should consider what "unquestioned stability" means. This unromantic term makes it seem as though she is making a bid for your 401(k).

DEAR AMY: You sure blew your answer to "Confused in North Carolina." It is extremely rude to say grace at someone else's table unless you are asked to do so. If you feel you cannot eat a meal without saying grace, do it before you come to the table or silently as you sit at the table. To impose your religious practices on someone else as a guest at their dinner table is rude. Pure and simple.Upset Reader