Heed the red flags in your relationship

DEAR AMY: I started dating my boyfriend at the beginning of my senior year of high school. When we graduated, we decided to continue our relationship even though we attend different colleges.

During the first semester, he did not seem to really care for me. He paid more attention to his new friends than to me.

I ended up cheating on my boyfriend at a party and he found out after hacking through my Facebook page. He was heartbroken, but we talked it over and decided to still go out. If we were to keep dating, I was not to have any male friends or go to parties. About seven months have passed and we are still together, but he still has a lot of resentment toward me for what I did last semester. I've kept my side of the bargain. He forgave me but it still comes up in many of our conversations, especially during arguments. He doesn't trust me at all and gets extremely jealous if I hang out with any of my guy friends. I care about him, but the past seems to haunt our relationship. I am worried that he will never let this go or will never trust me. I don't know if I should try to mend our relationship or move on. Amy, please advise me. What should I do?

Worried Girlfriend

DEAR WORRIED: Your boyfriend is bullying you. His inability to trust you and his retreat into jealousy are red flags that you should pay attention to.

If you two are committed to trying to repair this relationship, in addition to your behaving in a trustworthy fashion, your boyfriend has to trust you.

If you're going to succeed as a couple, you won't retreat into your separate friendships, but you will integrate your friends into your life together.

Given the challenges presented by this long-distance relationship, I would advise the two of you to part company.