Lecherous hubby is baby-sitting quandary

DEAR AMY: My friend asked me to baby-sit for her 6-year-old. She is married and pregnant with her second child. She and her husband provided their phone numbers to me before they went to work -- I had never sat for them before. They have a little pool, so I was laying out in my bikini, watching the boy play, and her husband showed up and started talking to me. I felt like he was criticizing his wife, my friend. I became uncomfortable when he started talking about the "seven-year itch." He said that's when men want to cheat. I put on my shorts and shirt. I have never been put in a situation like this. When her husband went back to work, he sent me a text not to tell his wife what he had said and ended it with, "By the way -- nice bathing suit." I didn't respond and then he texted me "Sorry." I still didn't reply. When my friend got home from work, I wanted to tell her, but I didn't know how she would react. I left my phone at their house and when I got it back, I realized those messages were gone; he had erased them. They want me to baby-sit again, but I don't want to. Everyone is telling me not to tell her, but I really think I should. I would want to know if my husband behaved like this.Upset

DEAR UPSET: You must ask yourself what purpose would be served. So far, his biggest crime is that he's a jerk.

If you are too uncomfortable (or simply don't want) to baby-sit, then you will have to say so.

DEAR AMY: "Paralyzed" said her 21-year-old daughter insisted on having her boyfriend sleep over because Paralyzed also had a boyfriend sleeping over. This mother is setting a bad example for both her 21- and 13-year-old children by having her boyfriend sleep over. I feel you missed the point.

Connie

DEAR CONNIE: I agree that I should have been more explicit about this choice. Thank you.