Naked women on her boyfriend's walls!

DEAR AMY: I'm a 25-year-old woman and am in a great long-term relationship with a very nice 27-year-old guy. Everything about him is great. About a month ago, he moved into a loft apartment with two other guys about his age, who have been living there for a few years. The setup is very nice: It's in a great location and very reasonable. His roommates are generally very gracious and creative young men. The problem is the decoration in the loft.

It's full of images of naked or almost naked women. Some are fine art prints, but others are just raunchy pornography. Some are centerfolds; another is a headless female mannequin wearing nothing but lingerie.

I don't feel comfortable visiting or hanging out there with so many women being displayed like that. I asked the girlfriend of one of the roommates what she thought of the mannequin, and she said it was funny.

My boyfriend has told me he does not want to upset the new apple cart by moving in and demanding that they change the apartment around. I don't want to come off as a demanding prude by saying they should redecorate their place, so what should I do?Grossed out Girlfriend

DEAR GIRLFRIEND: Like you, I wouldn't want to hang out in a porn palace, but your boyfriend isn't willing to represent your point of view to his roommates. Your only other option is to react to this decor yourself.

These men hung this imagery on their common walls for a reason. You can assume they enjoy it enough to explain it to someone who is willing to challenge their choices.

When you get to know them better, say: "OK. I'm dying to know. What's with all the nudes?" If they say they "love the human form," you can tell them you've got a vintage centerfold of Burt Reynolds you'd be happy to present to them.

Otherwise, if you can't adjust to this, I suggest you steer clear.