Neighbor's car warm-up has her steamed

DEAR AMY: My neighbor has three kids and a minivan. I work at home and often notice she warms her car up for a long time (often 10 minutes or more) from a remote starter. She is polluting the air we all breathe unnecessarily and wasting gas. I feel like she is infringing on my rights to live in a clean world where we already have such a climate crisis. Is there a way to address this with her?Fretting in Oak Park

DEAR FRETTING: By all means -- advocate for the climate, but you could probably make the biggest impact by taking these kids to school in your pedicab. I assume you'll offer.

DEAR AMY: My 20-year-old daughter, "Katie," has had her share of ups and downs with me and her dad. She has shown incredibly bad judgment by engaging in risky behavior and shows no remorse for the pain she has caused us over the years. She has struggled with manic depression since she was a teenager but will not take her medication or participate in therapy. I have recently discovered that she is having an affair with a married teacher at the local high school. She is not even a little bit guilty about this. Now his wife has found out about her husband. Katie refuses to discuss it with me. She is engaged to a nice guy. I really want to tell her fiance about what is going on, but I don't know if I should. Disgusted and Confused

DEAR DISGUSTED: Your daughter's behavior is distressing. I know it's a challenge to avoid being drawn into her mess, but you should do your best to distance yourself from her drama and to keep your focus on urging her to get treatment. Focus on staying strong, calm and consistent. Kay Redfield Jamison offers professional and personal insight into bipolar disorder in her memoir, "An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness" (1997, Vintage). I highly recommend it.