She's 50-plus and looking for a mate

DEAR AMY: I've been divorced for six years and would really like to meet someone for a relationship. Do you have any suggestions on how an educated, attractive woman in her mid 50s -- who is financially sound, has a job and is fun and outgoing -- can meet a guy? I tried online dating, but the guys I was interested in were not interested in me and vice versa. My church does not have a singles group. I've tried singles groups in the area, but it's usually women who attend the events and very few guys. I've asked my gal pals if they know of anyone, but they don't. I belong to a gym, but I live in the suburbs and it's "couplesville." I have a teenager living at home, so between work and his schedule, time to volunteer is somewhat limited. Where are the guys older than 50?Looking

DEAR LOOKING: I'm not going to lie to you; it's a numbers game and you fall into a tricky demographic; that's why you should keep doing what you're doing -- and also live your own life, regardless of your singlehood.

Follow your interests and take up new ones. Attend live events, travel and go to mixers. Develop friendships with women. Single women, especially, will prop you up and trade off being "wing women." Don't give up on getting love, but concentrate, too, on getting a life.

DEAR AMY: "Female Reader" wrote honestly about what slobs men are these days, and you called her sexist. Guess what? She's right! You owe her an apology.

Disgruntled

DEAR DISGRUNTLED: Many women readers agree with "Female Reader" that men are slobs. However, Female's assertion that men should provide her with some eye candy is what I regarded as sexist.

But the verdict is in. Men? Women seem to think you need to step up your game.