She thinks she's caught her guy cheating

DEAR AMY: My husband and I got a divorce but we've been back together and seeing each other for about a year. I've been worried that he has been doing things behind my back. He has been making calls to a phone number. I blocked my number and called the number he's been calling so the person wouldn't see my number. A girl answered, saying his name. They must have some kind of code between them where he blocks his number and she knows who it is because the number is blocked. He is saying he never made calls to that number, even though I saw it on the phone bill. He is denying it when there is proof. I can't find out who this number belongs to, though, and it's driving me crazy. How do I find out who owns this number and how do I get him to admit that he's calling this woman? He's asking me to marry him again, but I've had this terrible feeling about him and now I know I'm right. What should I do now?Worried

DEAR WORRIED: Your efforts at this point should be directed not toward solving this mystery but in trying to determine whether to stay in this relationship. The burden is on both of you to have a more solid and trusting relationship this time around. Work on this with the help of a professional counselor.

DEAR AMY: "Tired Teacher" was frustrated by parents who bullied her via e-mail. My husband worked for more than 18 years as a youth pastor. We found a reply to the unfair and often untrue complaints parents made: "If you promise not to believe everything your son/

daughter says about me, I will promise not to believe everything they tell me about you."

Carolyne

DEAR CAROLYNE: I'm happy this worked, but I think it puts the burden on the wrong person: the child. If parents behave badly, their behavior should be emphasized.