She wants her family's faces off Facebook
DEAR AMY: I would like some advice about how to let friends and family know that I would not like any pictures of my family posted on Facebook or any other social networking site. What the heck is the best way to do this without sounding like a freak?Concerned
DEAR CONCERNED: I remember back at the dawn of Facebook (say, two or three years ago) when I advocated in this space for the concept of "permission" regarding the posting of photos.
Oh, how young and naive I was.
Now I'm on Facebook myself, and I know better.
By all means, ask people in your circle not to post photos of your family on social networking sites.
Your friends won't think you're a freak; they'll just think you're being unrealistic.
The people in your personal circle of actual "friends" may go to great lengths to respect your wishes -- but then there are your kids' friends; their teammates; their teammates' moms and their teammate's mom's sister-in-law, Brenda, who took some awesome pictures of the kids during their last game and has posted and "tagged" all the children in the photos.
Join these social networking sites yourself. This is the best way to patrol what photos are floating around. Then you can attempt to control them by removing "tags" or asking people to pull photos down.
DEAR AMY: I'm often amazed that people are so threatened when an ex contacts their spouse. I think we all know that it is very easy to "ignore" or "block" almost any kind of contact. If people receive repeated messages from an ex, it could be because they're asking for it.Savvy
DEAR SAVVY: It's a possibility.
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