Should she refriend ex's friendly folks?

Reconsidering

DEAR RECONSIDERING: You don't need to explain your feelings about your ex -- this falls into the category of "private business" between you. Assume his family members probably understand some of your sensitivities. If being Facebook friends triggers tough emotions for you, it's best to leave these people off your "friends" list. But real-world friendships should transcend this awkwardness. I suggest you continue to be in occasional contact because you are fond of them -- and they obviously are fond of you.

DEAR AMY: This is about the letter from "Flustered," who had a fellow choir member guess that her husband smoked because she could smell it on her clothes. I'm a Realtor. Several years ago, as I was preparing to list a house, I asked my client, "Bob, you smoke, don't you?" He said, "Yes, but never in the house." I let him know that I could smell the smoke on his clothes, which were in the master bedroom closet. Every Realtor knows that "If you can smell it, you can't sell it."Realtor