Signs are clear -- this marriage is kaput
DEAR AMY: My wife says she wants "some space" to decide whether to stay in this marriage. She pawned her wedding rings. She said she would get the rings back but hasn't done so yet. I have information that she is seeing another man (at least she is making plans for this on Facebook), and I believe they have hooked up in the past -- before we separated. She has yet to tell me that our marriage is over. All she says is that she doesn't know. She says she knows she loves me but is no longer in love or emotionally connected to me. My heart tells me to stay until she says it's over, but my head is telling me to cut my losses while I can.
We have young kids, so that makes it difficult. What should I do?Hurting HusbandDEAR HURTING: How do you know when your marriage might be over? When your wife hooks up with another man and brazenly posts her plans on Facebook. When your wife tells you she is no longer in love or emotionally connected to you. When your wife pawns her wedding rings and makes no plans to retrieve them.
It gives me no pleasure to tell you that your marriage is over, but your wife has already demonstrated this.
Don't wait for her to officially lower the boom.
It's past time for you to take back some of your own power. See a lawyer.
Take extra special care of your children. Spend whatever emotional reserves you have left on them. They're going to need a steady, stable dad.
DEAR AMY: Furthering the discussion of when to stop giving gifts to grandchildren, here's my take: When my grandkids turn 21 they get a card from me saying, "This is an adult card. All it contains is my love. Love, Grandma."Grandma
DEAR GRANDMA: Very well done!
Sarra Sounds Off Ep. 35: EI baseball, girls lacrosse and plays of the week On the latest episode of "Sarra Sounds Off," we look at East Islip baseball's inspirational comeback story, Jared Valluzzi has the plays of the week and Tess Ferguson breaks down the top defensive players in girls lacrosse.
