Tell two-timing male co-worker you're busy

DEAR AMY: I am a 22-year-old woman working retail at a large store. Recently, I became involved with a male co-worker. He's several years older than I am and has a young daughter. He has always been very sweet to me and has invited me over many times to spend time with him and his daughter. I recently discovered that he's also been spending time with another woman we work with. I feel foolish and upset that I let myself get involved emotionally with him. I don't wish to continue flirting and hanging out. How can I tactfully let him know it's over without making a huge problem at work?

--Flavor of the Week

DEAR FLAVOR: Simply say, "Thank you so much for asking me to hang out but I have other plans."

If your co-worker presses his case, tell him you'd like to keep it professional.

DEAR AMY: My husband and I will be celebrating our 50th wedding anniversary in September. Our plan is to have a small reception with a few friends and family at a local restaurant. What can we put on the invitations to get across that we absolutely do not want any gifts?

--Worried

DEAR WORRIED: Gifts should not be mentioned on invitations, but you might give guests a focus. Say: "In lieu of other gifts, we'd be honored if you chose to make a donation to the charity of your choice."

DEAR AMY: I have 10 children, ranging in age from 2 to 21. I am 51 years old. Am I still supposed to play with them? They think so, but I say, "Enough!"

--Tired

DEAR TIRED: Play is an important part of a human's mental, physical, emotional and creative development. One thing all human beings seem to need is time to play, and, if the youngest humans among us can share some of that play time with their mother or father, all the better.