To get a commitment, she meets another man

DEAR AMY: I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years. I would like a bigger commitment from him. As a result, I decided to ignore him one night and have drinks with a male friend. My boyfriend saw us at the bar together and jumped to conclusions. I chose to develop this relationship with this man because I was upset with my boyfriend because he was continuing a friendship with his ex-girlfriend. I think I am entitled to be friends with whomever I want. If he trusts me, he should accept this. We're not engaged, so I don't think he should be able to tell me whom I can and can't be friends with. What should I do?Upset

DEAR UPSET: Of course you should be able to have friendships on your own. But in an exclusive romantic relationship, these friendships should be transparent. So the next time you plan to hang out with this other guy, you should let your boyfriend know in advance -- and invite him to stop by if he's in the area.

You are too immature to get married.

DEAR AMY: My grandparents are getting a divorce. Lately, my grandfather has been calling the house to talk to my dad, but I have been the only one home. I like talking to my grandpa on the phone, but it pains me when he brings up my grandma. He has said things about her that I didn't want to know. I worry that if I tell my parents, they will hurt my grandpa's feelings by talking to him about this. How can I approach this difficult subject with my grandpa without losing our chances to talk?Troubled

DEAR TROUBLED: You say "Grandpa, I know you're sad, but Nana is my grandma, and I love her, too. Even after you get divorced, that's not going to change. I love you both. I hate hearing negative things about her. It hurts. Can you try harder not to do this?"