Trust can be rebuilt, but it takes time

You are not doomed. Your discomfort and distrust will fade, but first you need to believe that trust is possible. You also need to wrestle with the concept of forgiveness.

Your husband has an important part to play (of course), and he needs to be transparent, patient with your discomfort and not rush you toward a specific feeling or reaction -- or judge you if you don't get there easily or quickly.

Take this journey one day at a time. The good days will gradually outnumber the bad days. You will see that forgiveness and trust are gifts to your own well-being, as well as your marriage.