What's odd about photos at a funeral?

DEAR AMY: My question involves someone close to me taking photos at a funeral lunch. I was not at this function, but two relatives told me this individual was taking photos of people at the tables as if it were a wedding or another celebration! The problem is that this person is my husband. How could I even approach him about this ridiculous and incredibly odd behavior? It's not unusual for him and his family to exhibit a complete lack of proper social boundaries, but even the rest of his family were smart enough not to bring their cameras that day.Appalled Wife

DEAR APPALLED: I find this behavior much less odd, ridiculous and appalling than you do. I can actually imagine that family members of the deceased might want photos of guests who attended the luncheon. Some funeral lunches manage to be celebrations of a person's life, as people reunite to remember an individual who was important to them. Obviously, any photographing done at this function should have been at the request (or with the permission) of the family. If other relatives didn't like what he was doing, they should have asked him to stop.

DEAR AMY: I've watched the children of my cousin grow from infants to teenagers. Over the years, I've noticed they have developed peculiar eating habits that include making pronounced noises and using condiments by the fork or spoonful. As the older one is about to go away to college, is there anything that can or should be said? And by whom? Curious Cousin

DEAR CURIOUS: Here's what can be said: "Gentlemen, the condiments are not entrees. They are not to be eaten by the spoonful. They are to be spread upon one's hamburger, like this." And the parents should have said it when these kids were much younger.

DEAR AMY: I am writing in response to the letter from "Grandparents," the people who said they preferred their natural-born granddaughter to their step-grandson. I have an older brother and sister who had a different biological father from mine. My father adopted them before I was born. We don't think of any of our siblings as half-siblings. However, my father's side of the family treated them differently. The fact that these relatives couldn't embrace my entire family lowered my respect for them. The grandparents need to embrace both of their grandchildren, otherwise they will most likely damage their relationship with the little girl, too.NormaDEAR NORMA: You are so right; this unbalanced treatment affects all the family relationships.