What to do about a date who's had too much to drink

DEAR AMY: I recently met a very nice man who lives about 40 miles from me. We had a very nice date and he was a perfect gentleman. I eagerly accepted a second date with him, in my town. We had drinks, and he drank more than he should have. As we drew the evening to a close, he asked if he could hang at my house so he wouldn't drive 40 miles under the influence. I did not like this, but if I said no that meant I could be putting him on the road to, at best, get a DWI or, at worst, kill someone. Against my better judgment, I allowed him to come to my home, where he immediately tried to become intimate with me. I did try to send him home, but he said he still was in no condition to drive. I allowed him to stay and kicked him out in the early morning. I'm still angry because I didn't want him in my house, and I did not want to be intimate, but he disregarded my wishes. So I want to know: Do I tell him to drive home, make him sleep in his car or allow him to sleep on my couch, even though it simply isn't what I want?WonderingDEAR WONDERING: You are morally obligated to protect your own personal safety. You also are obligated to do your best to protect others'.

You should never let someone into your home because you've been pressured to do so. You are leaving yourself vulnerable not only to someone's clumsy advances, but worse.

Don't ever behave in a way that causes you to use the phrase "against my better judgment" later.

If someone claims to be too drunk to drive, you should believe him - regardless of how he seems to you.

If you're not able to call a cab to take him to his home (ask the restaurant manager about a taxi service), I'd suggest letting him sleep in his car with you holding the keys. You could then deliver the keys along with a cup of coffee in the morning and send him on his way.