Widower needs to give toddler special attention

DEAR AMY: I am a widower with five children. We live in a large home. I allowed my wife's sister and family to move in with us when she and her husband lost their jobs and their home was foreclosed. They have three older children. I am truly blessed that our families get along well, and that my children have a mother figure in my sister-in-law. I am concerned, though, for my youngest son "Stevie." At 2 years old, he has yet to speak - I didn't start talking until I was 4. Stevie also likes to cuddle with everyone! Despite having his own bed and stuffed bear, Stevie can be found in the beds of either his brothers, sisters, cousins, aunt and uncle, or my own! He does not discriminate! I found him recently sleeping with our chocolate Lab! Is this behavior something to be concerned about? What is your take on this?Concerned In MichiganDEAR CONCERNED: I'm happy your unusual situation is working out for your families, but as the youngest, "Stevie" may be expressing some of the natural stresses of being at the end of the cuddle chain in your very large household.

At only 2 years old, he has been through a great deal. He now has a wealth of cuddling and sleeping options, and he is trying them all.

Take your son to see his pediatrician for an evaluation. His lack of language could be a sign of a processing or hearing problem - or evidence that he has suffered a loss (as you all have).

I'd give him as much one-on-one "Daddy time" as you can. Sit quietly with him and leaf through a simple picture book. Talk to him and listen patiently.

Establish a predictable bedtime routine that culminates with him being tucked in along with his bear in his bed. When he wanders at night, whomever he lands with should lead him back to his bed and stroke his head or rub his back for a few minutes.

You also could try moving the dog's bed into his room.