Co-worker's candid photo is rude

DEAR AMY: Recently a co-worker took a picture of me with her cell phone because I had just changed my printer ribbon and had black powder all over my chin and cheek and didn't know it. We had a good laugh and then I asked her to delete the picture. She refused. She says she wants to keep it and attach it to my cell phone number so when I text her or call her, the picture will be displayed and make her laugh. She showed the picture to several people in the office. I told her that if I had an unflattering picture of her, I would delete it to keep her from being disrespected. She told me to lighten up. Should I ask her again or should I try to let go of my anger?

Office Cinderella

DEAR CINDERELLA: This paparazzi move by your co-worker was so rude - and such a violation of even the basic standards - that I'm tempted to suggest that you lie in wait with your cell phone at the ready to exact your revenge.

But I suggest you lighten up, laugh at yourself and never call or text her.

DEAR AMY: None of my teenage grandchildren think of calling to ask how I'm doing. They are kind and loving when we get together, but it seems to end there. I understand how busy teenagers are with school and socializing, but their lack of interest is so disconcerting and rude. They know I've been housebound for several weeks with the flu, and yet neither they nor their mother has called. Please help me make sense out of this.Distressed Grandmother

DEAR DISTRESSED: The dearth of contact from your grandchildren is a direct result of their parents' behavior and expectations. But the phone runs both ways. Give your grandkids a call now and then, ask about their lives and tell them about your own.