Don't take out hard feelings on son's friend

DEAR AMY: There is a family I am not particularly fond of. Even though I don't like them, my husband insists on putting their son on his baseball teams. These people have disrespected me many times. My husband knows how I feel about them, and we've had many arguments over this. My son and their son are friends, but I've had enough. After this season, I'd like to sever all ties with these people. This might mean the boys can't be friends anymore. What do you think?Enough Is Enough

DEAR ENOUGH: Your husband is the coach, so he has discretion about how to field the team.

This child doesn't seem to have done anything to deserve your wrath, so he should not be punished because of a sour relationship you have with his parents.

You have a choice: Either you suck it up and demonstrate to your son, their son and anyone else involved that you are an adult and know how to behave well - or you can be punitive and small, and punish a child for the sins of his parents.

I sincerely hope you choose what's behind door No. 1.

DEAR AMY: You recently replied to "Concerned Mom," who said her daughter no longer wanted to marry her fiance but thought the wedding should take place, anyway. I told my mom I didn't want to marry my fiance, and she thought it was too late to change anything because the invitations had already been sent. That was 28 years ago. I married the man and divorced him three years later. To this day, I still wonder why my mom didn't listen to and support me. Your advice was spot on. Concerned Mom needs to concentrate on her daughter first.Candid in Colorado

DEAR CANDID: When someone says she doesn't want to get married, the smartest thing is to believe her.