Grief compounded by 'revelation'

Why did he have to share this with me on the worst day of my life and then be surprised when I got upset? If you can't find the courage to confront your abusers, don't settle for sucker punching those who loved them

.Grieving Widow

I agree with you that this disclosure was horribly and insensitively timed and hope you can learn the truth to resolve any unanswered questions. You and the person who made the allegation both need to heal.

Grieving

Funeral directors will carefully note and provide the names of people who sent flowers. Charities will often send the names of those who donated money to honor your loved one. There is nothing creepy about thanking those who have been so thoughtful, but if you can't do this, I hope there is another family member who will.

I find that I have to admonish him for things that he should know already. He has tried washing the dishes after I've cooked, only for me to have to rewash everything. I've lost my patience several times, when, after he goes to the bathroom, my floor is wet around the toilet. I've had to teach him to cook (he lived off fast food), properly make a bed, etc.

I've found that when I have to teach" him (or get on his case for something he has done wrong) that I lose some of my attraction to him, feeling more like his mother than his girlfriend.

I also feel he's been in training" with me for so long that, if I end things, some other woman could snatch him up and reap the benefits of my hard work. Any advice?

Reluctant Teacher