Some people will reach their final days without the ability to communicate. That's where advance health care directives come in: They allow people to maintain control over decisions when they can't speak for themselves.

Here's what you should know:

1. YOU'RE IN CHARGE OF DECIDING WHO SPEAKS FOR YOU

Everyone should consider choosing a person to be what's known as a health care proxy, but this is especially important if you're older, said Dr. Lucy Macina, an attending physician in geriatric medicine at Winthrop University Hospital in Mineola. This person -- perhaps a family member or friend -- would have the power to make medical decisions if you're unable to do so.

You should talk to the person about your beliefs regarding the type of medical treatment you'd be willing to undergo. "If you reach a point where you're suffering or your quality of life is very poor," Macina said, "how do you want that to be handled? Are you someone who wants to be kept comfortable? Or are you someone who wants everything done?"

2. A HEALTH CARE PROXY FORM MAKES YOUR CHOICE OFFICIAL

The document, which should be available at your doctor's office or a hospital, designates the person who will speak for you.

Dr. Geraldine Lanman, an internist and geriatrician in New Hyde Park, suggests that you give one copy of the form to your doctor, keep one with your will and carry a laminated copy (in miniaturized print) in your wallet. "If disaster strikes, I can explain the situation and the various options to the agent, and then ask the agent what the patient would say if they could speak," Lanman said.

Or, you could designate your doctor to make decisions for you. "Many patients will say, 'I want you to do what you think is best,' and we make the decisions," Macina said. "You could make the doctor your proxy, or you could just let your doctor know what your wishes are, and the doctor would follow those wishes."

3. DON'T WORRY ABOUT CONSIDERING ALL POSSIBLE SCENARIOS

It's not necessary to talk to your designated proxy about everything that could happen on the medical front, Lanman advised. "As long as you trust that person to try their best to think like you, there is no need to try to ferret out all potential medical ends," she said. "Just trust that your doctor and your agent will do the very best they can to provide you with the care you would wish for yourself."

4. A LIVING WILL IS ANOTHER OPTION

A living will allows you to declare your wishes about medical treatment, particularly issues like cardiac resuscitation, tube feeding and artificial respiration, or use of a ventilator. You would make the call ahead of time, rather than leaving it to a proxy. The New York State Bar Association (nysba.org) offers living will and health care proxy forms designed for New York residents.

5. TALK TO YOUR PARENTS ABOUT THEIR WISHES BEFORE THERE'S A CRISIS

Macina suggests you adopt an upfront approach and try something like this: "There may be a time when I will have to make a decision based on your wishes. If you get very ill and there is a good chance that you're going to die, how do you want me to approach that? I want to do what you want me to do. I want to carry out your wishes."

The conversation may not be as tough as you might imagine. "Honestly," she said, "many older patients have thought about this already. They've made up their minds and have an idea what they'd want."

 

Geriatric medicine

 

This is the 15th installment of a 26-week series in which Newsday presents Castle Connolly's list of top Long Island doctors.

Dr. Irving Gomolin

222 Station Plaza N.

Mineola

516-663-2588

Dr. Geraldine Lanman

1 Delaware Dr.

New Hyde Park

516-326-5320

Dr. Lucy Macina

222 Station Plaza N.

Mineola

516-663-2588

Dr. Gisele Wolf-Klein

2800 Marcus Ave.

Lake Success

516-708-2520


FAMILY MEDICINE

Dr. Alex Aponte

Westhampton Primary Care

80 Old Riverhead Rd.

Westhampton Beach

631-288-7746

Dr. Robert Arcati

530 Hicksville Rd.

Bethpage

516-931-4285

Dr. Anthony Arcati

530 Hicksville Rd.

Bethpage

516-937-5000

Dr. Stanley Blyskal

126 E. Main St.

East Islip

631-581-0090

Dr. Luigi Capobianco

One School St.

Glen Cove

516-671-9800

Dr. Martin Edelstein

11 Beverly Rd.

Great Neck

516-487-1614

Dr. Michael Fishkin

2500 Nesconset Hwy.

Bldg. 7D

Stony Brook

631-751-3322

Dr. James Giugliano

290 N. Sea Rd.

Southampton

631-283-5900

Dr. Louis Greenblatt

533 Rte. 111

Hauppauge

631-366-1788

Dr. Kenneth Levites

213 Montauk Hwy.

West Sayville

631-563-6205

Dr. Brian Moynihan

2840 Jerusalem Ave.

Wantagh

516-781-1141

Dr. Lesley Rechter

54 Birchwood Park Dr.

Jericho

516-933-6850

Dr. Hans Dieter Schwinn

80 Old Riverhead Rd.

Westhampton Beach

631-288-7746

Dr. Neil Soskel

185 Merrick Rd.

Lynbrook

516-887-0077

 

How they were picked

 

Castle Connolly Medical Ltd. is a health care research and information company founded in 1991 by a former medical college board chairman and president to help guide consumers to America's top doctors and hospitals. Castle Connolly's established survey and research process, under the direction of a doctor, involves tens of thousands of doctors and the medical leadership of leading hospitals.

Castle Connolly's team of researchers follows a rigorous screening process to select doctors on national and regional levels. Using mail and telephone surveys, and electronic ballots, they ask physicians and the leadership of top hospitals to identify exceptional doctors. Careful screening of doctors' educational and professional experience is essential to the committee. Not every good physician makes the list. Rather, the list is a way for patients to get started on their search for the best medical professional. Newsday is not part of the selection process.

Doctors do not and cannot pay to be selected and profiled as Castle Connolly Top Doctors.

 

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