Her fiance falls short on her love meter

DEAR AMY: I am a 25-year-old woman and I am engaged to a wonderful man. I have been in love before. My problem is that I do not love my fiance as much as I have loved my ex-boyfriend. I can't pinpoint why. My fiance is wonderful and I love him very much. I know he will be an excellent husband. I can never be with my ex ever again, so should I go through with the wedding? Will I eventually forget about my ex?

--Worried Fiancee

DEAR WORRIED: You may not forget about your ex; your feelings may grow. Because you are aware of this, you should do everything possible to resolve these feelings before you marry. This issue is best handled with a professional counselor. Once you understand more about who you were when you were in this previous relationship, you can startto put it in perspective.

DEAR AMY: "Sad" wrote to you about her daughter's claim that she had been sexually abused by her brother as a child. You caught heat from readers because you believed the daughter's claim. I am a police officer. Sexual molestation in any form from a family member has far-reaching effects. If a child told me someone was sexually abusing her or him, it is my place to act. That usually entails rendering aid to the victim and investigating. The daughter could have been lying, but Sad should have gotten her daughter help. Hundreds of women still do not report sexual brutality to the police because they have to fight to be believed. The people who don't believe them are usually their own families. Sexual abuse isn't just random; there are generally signs, but people get very good at ignoring them.

--Concerned Officer

DEAR OFFICER: In her letter to me, "Sad" didn't question her daughter's veracity. It was my readers who cast doubt. Thank you for offering your professional perspective.