I found bad news when I Googled a relative's boyfriend

DEAR AMY: What to do? A close relative is contemplating taking the next big step in a relationship with someone, and I don't know if she has done the same Google search that I did on the man in question. By simply adding his hometown following his name in the search box, I discovered a DUI arrest two years ago that didn't show up when his name alone was searched. The spelling of his name and his hometown are unique, so I knew it was him. For all I know, she's already aware of this incident and they are dealing with it. But if she's not, I feel she should be. Amy, I hope your response does not tell me to MYOB. Please help me figure out what to do.ConcernedDEAR CONCERNED: You have already determined that you will not MYOB. So, speak to your relative about this, but be prepared to answer the question of why you are searching the Internet for infractions. Perhaps there are other red flags about this guy you are concerned about. If so, you might as well state your entire case.

After that, you should be prepared to deal with any fallout between the two of you.

Full disclosure between partners is necessary before they take "the next big step." Disclosure leads to challenging conversations, but also intimacy.

DEAR AMY: I had to respond when you quipped to a woman in her 30s: "Who will pursue you when you are 40? Practically no one." I am a 52-year-old single male. When I was in my mid to late 40s, I pursued many women in their 40s. They all had their "deal breakers." I wasn't religious enough, I didn't have a dog, I drank more than two beers a week. If women in their 40s would relax their "deal breakers," they might find a man out there who cares for them.Kelly from ChicagoDEAR KELLY: Amen, brother.