Not guilty of online porn, but someone is

DEAR AMY: A few days ago, while I was on the computer, I went to open a new tab; whenever this is done, it shows a list of recently visited sites. There was a new one listed. It was for a porn site. I instinctively deleted it from the tab page, because about two years ago I got busted big time for watching porn. I didn't want one of my parents to see this site listed and think I was back into watching porn. Regaining their trust was hard and I don't want to lose it. I want to talk to my dad about this but don't know how. I don't want him to think it's me again or, worse yet -- what if it's him? I only have one brother. He is 13, and I know he would never do this. I feel stuck; please help.Stuck

DEAR STUCK: I think there is at least some possibility that your brother might have checked out a porn site. If pornography was a point of contention in your household, this could have naturally piqued your brother's interest. Not that adolescent boys need any particular motivation.

And please take into account that this might have been a mistake or a one-time thing.

If you see evidence of this again, you should bring it to your father's attention. Your motivation should be to let him know that the trust you worked so hard to secure holds firm, but that someone else in the household might not have learned this lesson.

Being brave enough to initiate this sort of conversation is a mark of maturity.

DEAR AMY: "The Mother Who Raised Them" was upset because her children's former stepmother claimed the kids as her "son and daughter" on her Facebook page. You should know that Facebook doesn't offer "step" designations. My own stepkids are listed as my "children" because I don't have any other option on Facebook.

Been There

DEAR BEEN THERE: I am shocked to learn that you are correct. Facebook, what gives?