Proper thanks from a retiring doctor

DEAR AMY: My husband is retiring after 32 years as a family practice doctor. His patients have expressed their thanks in so many ways, and I do not know how to thank them back. Some have written heartfelt cards; some have come in person to thank him; others have sent him gifts. How do I properly thank them?Wondering Wife

DEAR WIFE: Your husband should scratch out a note to each person who personally expressed good wishes to him.

If this task is so daunting that you both know he won't (or can't) do it, he should write a warm and sincere letter to send to all of his patients thanking them for placing their trust and their lives into his hands.

After expressing his gratitude, he should say, "My wife and I are so touched by the many good wishes, notes, cards and gifts you have sent to us; we head into this next phase of life humbled and grateful to have known you, in sickness and health." Then he should wish them good health and happiness and sign his name. If he writes a personal line at the bottom of each letter, the recipient will feel acknowledged and thanked.

DEAR AMY: I agree with your advice to "Fed Up Mom" that she needs to stop treating her post-college daughter like a kindergartner. But I would encourage her to make sure that her daughter is not depressed. Twenty-five years after graduating from an Ivy League school in the middle of a recession, I realized that my late sleeping and lack of focus were not due to a lack of motivation but depression about the fact that I had no idea what to do with myself. Years later, I have had two wonderful careers, but that transition was very difficult.Grateful Grad

DEAR GRATEFUL: I agree there is a possibility this couch potato is depressed; she should turn off the TV to find out.